How to be a Happy man

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We all want to feel happy, and each one of us has different ways of getting there. No matter what we’re currently working on or striving toward, it is–by and large–our ultimate goal. Whether that means building a business, cultivating a meaningful relationship, or watching a movie coupled with a glass of wine, we’re all engaged in trying to fuel our happiness.

Happiness can be many things for many people: for some, happiness is riding roller coasters while for others, happiness is holding their newborn baby. While happiness varies from person to person, many factors can contribute to an overall happy life and feeling like a happy person. Both paying attention to your attitude and making changes in your day-to-day can help you experience a joyful, happy filled life.
While happiness looks different for every person, it’s only through searching that we find what works best for us.

Here are some steps to help you get started your journey and bring more happiness into your life:

1. Think Positive

It’s impossible to have a challenge-free life, but your attitude makes all the difference with how you respond to life’s challenges. Positive thinking means how you approach difficulties with a positive outlook. It doesn’t mean you avoid or push away unpleasant experiences, but that you see the best in situations.

Thinking positively means reminding yourself that negative events are temporary and opportunities to learn and grow. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects, look for ways to learn from each situation. For example, don’t think negatively when you walk to work and it always rains. Use this experience to learn: it may be time to invest in an umbrella and some rainboots.

One way to practice positive thinking is to pay attention to your inner dialog. Instead of thinking, “I’m going to be terrible at this” replace the thought with, “I am bravely trying something new and I can’t control the outcome.”

Think about what you truly value in your life and try to actively pursue those values.

2. Make Your Body Happy

Eat real food. Move throughout the day, even if that just means standing up from your computer once an hour. Invest in a good mattress and commit yourself to practicing the sleep hygiene needed for a good night’s rest.

If you make your body happy, it will make you happy. If you have a terrible diet, clean it up and start eating right. If you never exercise, commit to taking a quick walk once a day. After a few weeks, you’ll see a difference in the way you think and feel.

3. Eat healthier

Despite the instant gratification that comes with unhealthy food, it makes you feel worse. Providing your body with the right nutrients, and avoiding negative ones, will have you feeling much better and energetic each day. It is okay to have an occasional treat, and living in absolutes can often be much more challenging. A concentrated focus towards healthier eating, though, will pay off.

4. Do Yoga

Whether you’re a footballer, a lifter, or a runner, one thing is for sure: YOGA will make you feel so much better. Yes, yoga can be challenging, but it’s worth giving it a try.

The mindful focus on breathing and your body, in general, can reduce stress, stop you from getting sick, and ramp up your production of lymphocytes.

5. Push yourself, not others

It’s easy to feel that someone else is responsible for your fulfillment, but the reality is that it is really your charge. Once you realize that, you have the power to get where you want to go. Stop blaming others or the world, and you’ll find your answers much sooner.

6. Be present

Life can feel hectic and it’s easy to get caught up in the to-do’s, planning ahead, and what’s next. The truth is, your body is always in the moment but your mind can be in the past, present, or future. If you feel disconnected from yourself or others, practice directing your thoughts and attention to the present moment. Use your senses to bring you back, one by one: tune in to the sounds you hear, even the things you tend to tune out. Use your eyes and look around. Notice any smells. It’s not important to label what you experience, just experience it.

Connect with your breath. Breathing with awareness can help bring you back to your body.
Listen to your mind. Allow your mind to run with all the thoughts it wants to experience without engaging or responding to the thoughts. When thoughts come up, acknowledge them without judging them. For instance, say, “I’m thinking about the busy day I have ahead.” There’s no need to analyze or judge the thought, just acknowledge it.

7. Stop Overthinking

Most of the people think more about any work than it’s actually deserves. This increases pressure and tension on your mind, which will block your way to the relief and happiness. For instance, business owners consistently spend too much time wondering “what if” and feeling like the weight of the world is on their shoulders. But if you take the time to stop and put things in perspective, you’ll find that these hypotheticals don’t really matter that much. Inaction due to analysis paralysis is far worse than an imperfect forward action.

Take the time to let your worries go, make an educated decision, and move forward. You’ll be much happier as a result.

How to get rid of overthinking

8. Spend more time outside

Being outside has been proven to make people feel better. Enjoying nature and spending time in places that you love will help you relax and become more present. Despite how busy things might seem, it is easy to integrate the outdoors into your daily routine.

This could mean walking around a park to catch up with a friend instead of getting coffee or reading in your backyard instead of on your couch.

9. Avoid living in the past

Maybe something happened that you regret, or you wonder if you could have done something differently. Don’t allow yourself to enter the non-existent time warp. Ruminating on past events can lead to a cycle of negative thoughts, depression and anxiety. Instead, use the situation to problem solve any future problems and reflect on how you can respond differently. There is no changing the past, but you can change the future.
Identify the fear that motivates your rumination. Maybe you’re afraid you came off as unintelligent or aloof, or that people perceived you as lacking social skills. Spend some time journaling what fears motivate you living in the past.
Let go of what’s out of your own control. Ask yourself what you can change (if anything). If you can’t change anything, let it go. If you can change things, determine what can be changed and how you will handle it.
When reflecting in the past, don’t just rely on negative self-evaluations. Also remember what you have done well and when you have responded positively.

10. Spend more time with people that you love

Spending time with the people who are very close to you makes you fell better and gives you a next level relief and happiness. This goes without saying, but being around people that you love makes you happier. It is easy to spend time with those that you do not truly enjoy being around. Cutting those people out of your life and replacing them with those who give you energy will make for a more meaningful year.

I’ve managed to do this in my own life by making myself “busy” all the time. I even went as far as putting together a calendar management guide to help you always make the best of your time.

11. Smile more

Studies have shown that smiling triggers positive associations in your brain that spark happiness. This externality does not take much extra effort from you. Not to mention that smiling makes you come across as a warmer person which could attract more friends or potential partners.

12. Look for the Good

There’s no way around it–dealing with people can be a real downer sometimes. But not all people are bad. In fact, most of them are genuine and mean well, just like you and me. Focus on looking for the good in others and you’ll feel happier as you begin to see it.

13. Spend less time on social media

In the present era almost everyone has their own smartphones or laptops or PCs which has led to the increase in the number of social media users. As a result most of the people make over use of social medias, disconnecting them from their reality, family, friends and many more.
Social media leaves us craving something more. We feel like we do not stack up against our peers and we care more about our external images. Using social media less will remove you from those types of sentiments and make you happier.

14. Forgive

Bad things happen. Sometimes it’s intentional, but many times it’s not. Learn to forgive quickly and move on. It takes practice, but I’ve yet to hear of a person regretting forgiving someone. Get rid of your vengeful thoughts, and replace them with plans for moving forward.

You may feel justified in holding onto resentments against people that deeply hurt you. It’s important to realize that holding onto resentment doesn’t harm the other person, it only creates deeper hurt inside yourself. Forgiveness helps in healing, but it’s not just about you or just about the other person. You forgive because eventually you realize it’s the best response to a situation.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing someone’s behavior or pretending the situation didn’t happen. Forgiveness is a way to set yourself and the other person free from holding onto pain and hurt.
Address your inner pain and what triggered the deep hurt you experience. Did the offense trigger feelings of abandonment, trauma, or unpleasant memories from the past? Journal your feelings and discover the deeper hurt that this person triggered.
You can silently forgive someone in your heart without engaging in a formal conversation. This is especially important when the offending person is no longer in your life or has passed on.